What is love?

January 13, 2016

What love is?
What makes me thinking of you day and night?
What makes me put your happiness as important as mine?
What makes me do something for you without expecting anything in return?
What makes me see you as the only one person in this world?
Is it love?

What love is?
The ancient Greeks called love, “The madness of the gods.”
Songwriters described it, “Whenever you are near, I hear a symphony.”
Shakespeare said, “Love is blind and lovers cannot see.”
Aristotle said, “Love is composed of single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
Modern psychologists define it as it strong desire for emotional union with another person.
Kabir, the Indian poet said, “The lane of love is narrow; there is room for only one.”
Is it love?

 

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                                                   A Heart

 

Love is a chemical reaction in your brain. It’s just the chemicals making you feel good, it won’t last. Your feelings and emotions come from your brain not from your heart. Your heart is a  muscular organ that is responsible for pumping blood. Organs have functions, they don’t have emotions or feelings.

 

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What love is?
Brain science tells us it’s a drive like thirst.
It’s a craving for a specific person.
It’s normal, natural to lose control in the early stage of romance.
Love, like thirst, will make you do strange things.
It’s a natural addiction.
Is it love?

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. – Lao Tzu

What love is?
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. Jealousy is disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy.
We all have wants and needs. We all desire happiness for ourselves, and for others. When the happiness of another is necessary for your happiness, you have love.
Is it love?

[pullquote]You experience raw sexual chemistry between you and him, and assign more emotion to the bond than there actually is. You can’t stop thinking about him, not because you’re in love with him, but because you’re turned on by him.[/pullquote] What love is?
Is it when you kiss me lovingly and passionately?
Love and lust are two different things.
People confuse lust with love or substitute love for lust.
It’s not in the kiss. Physical attraction has nothing to do with love.
What really matters is how he treats you and how you feel around him.
Some even treat you great and break your heart anyway.
After promises were made, declarations were made, etc. You still can’t trust that he will love you tomorrow or that he even knows what love is.

Love is one of the most powerful forces on this planet. Understand it, harness it and build on it. Love with honesty and integrity, and provide the world with your example.

Love means great risk because it involves another person’s free will, you can’t control it at all. The person you thought was the one person in the whole wide world you could count on and trust, the one person who would never hurt you or let you down, can be the very person to choose to walk away and never look back and not even care how much it kills you. That’s just the nature of love. You can’t go into it measuring kisses and rating hugs or how many flowers you get for Valentine’s day. All you can do is be you that makes you the most proud and find someone who seems to really appreciate that and enjoy what it offers without building your whole world around it, so you’ll be ok if it suddenly disappears tomorrow.

 

[pullquote]Love is not enough to make a relationship work – it needs compatibility and it needs commitment.[/pullquote] We spend our whole lives hoping for love, wanting it, needing it, searching for it, trying to hold into it. Love is the greatest gift of life, nothing in life has to offer can compare to the true love of a trustworthy companion, but very few of us actually get to have it or keep it long. It’s amazing but you can’t trust it 100%. You can only trust yourself. Enjoy the passionate kiss for what it is, but don’t consider it a promise. Even a marriage license is little more than a pie crust promise, easily made, easily broken, and even a marriage often becomes, as Dr. Phil says, “Just something you did for a while.” Part of becoming a mature, stable, strong, independent grown up is coming to terms with that fact.

Falling in love is the easy part, but building a healthy relationship takes hard work. Finding a partner with whom you are compatible, as well as one you love, is the formula for a healthy, lasting relationship.

love is a chemical reaction

 

Esther Ariesta-Rantanen

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